So, most days, I'm a totally secure, have my shit together, utterly confident and independent woman. Or at least I fake it very well until I believe it myself, which in turn creates confidence.
Not lately. No. Lately, I'm a suspicious insecure twit. Myspace -- I blame you.
Why? Because there are constantly half-naked women being added as "friends" to my boyfriend's page. I KNOW this is a stupid thing for me to care about. Please do not send me comments on how I need to lighten up, get over it, etc. Rationally, I know all this. Rationally, I know that these little skanks are all e-mailing him because Hello! he's a photographer who does headshots as well as fashion and glamour. You know -- the kind where the girls are artfully posed in a g string and boots, or in lingerie. Tell it to my hormones. I don't understand it myself. I don't care if he's watching porn -- but when I know he's sitting there filing through all these girls profiles, the half naked photos, etc. etc., it DRIVES ME BATSHIT CRAZY. Not all the time, mind you, but I don't know how to deal with it, so if you've got any, you know, constructive ideas, you let me know.
Just a note -- I'm obviously blogging about this so I don't take out my crazy on him, though he's aware that this stuff does make me nuts.
I'm cognizant that a lot of this insecurity may be a result of us moving in together -- it's a really huge step. Naturally, I'm totally petrified, but I do love him, and I want nothing more than to be living together.
Posted at 10:58 am by
Stimulant
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saneandsingle
June 24, 2008 03:27 PM PDT
OMG!! Myspace is evil and can be the death of relationships, due to this very problem...it feeds people's insecurities! Tread carefully...
I know from experience that it's difficult not to question things said and "friends" there.
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Janeylynn
April 29, 2008 09:38 PM PDT
If you hear about any ideas, do me a favor...let ME know! Please. I hate that shit. |
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LA suburbs
December 20, 2007 09:28 PM PST
I had a cow, several of them, over what he said. He told me I had a problem. Trust has been broken since then because I was not happy and he did nothing to help me feel secure in our relationship. I went onto his personal mail and found he had given 2 people his number. We are still together but I feel we will not last because of this.. trust. |
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Spirophita
August 21, 2007 01:22 PM PDT
It doesn't make you insecure. I saw a comment my SO posted on a friend's site that made some reference to a "Rubdown" and had a complete cow. If you've already discussed, let it go. If you haven't approach it calmly. It IS a public forum. :)
That said, Myspace feeds every insecurity and phobia EVERY person, not just woman has. Even the most secure of us crack under the pressure! |
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