Step One: Move in with him

Step Two: Subtly (or not so) start redecorating his apartment.

Step Three: Put an opened box of pregnancy tests in his bathroom, kind of hidden.

Step Four: Rent "Knocked Up"

Step Five: Watch movie with boyfriend. Let him laugh at movie. Enjoy movie, and display horror at birthing scene.

Step Six: At movie's end, turn to boyfriend and say (earnestly), "Let's have babies!"

I'm kind of amazed he's still letting me live there after that actually, but things are going really well. Yeah, we've had a few of the small "learn to share" scuffles, but for the most part -- MCC is the easiest roommate I've ever had. He doesn't leave wet towels on the bed. (Though he doesn't make the bed either.) He doesn't leave dishes in the sink for days. He even washes out the coffee pot when I leave for work! And he doesn't even drink coffee!! He'll even run errands on occasion. Like LAUNDRY!

Isn't this blog exciting?

Speaking of babies, though I really did love Knocked Up, the movie got me thinking about one of Amy Sohn's Modern Love articles (here) I'd read a while ago about how she and her husband managed to tackle the whole career/babies thing. Now, normally I don't really enjoy Amy Sohn -- I think she can be a bit too emo for her own good, but she touched on a few issues I think have probably become fairly common for career minded moms. Well, career minded moms who can afford to have one person be the primary breadwinner. If you have a career, can you actually spend quality time with your children? Women have yelled at their husbands for decades about this, but truly, are we any better? Yes, we may be better multitaskers, but in the end, there are only so many hours during the day. If we give up the role as primary caregiver, can we deal with the consequences? MCC and I have talked about children, whether we want them (individually, not necessarily together) and what we think makes a good parent. For both of us, the most important thing is being there. I had two working parents who did their best to be there, but who both admit, it would have been really hard were it not for my grandmother. I was lucky -- she was always there to take care of me. Given the rising costs of living, I can't forsee ever having a single-earner household. So with both parents working, and an assumption that there's no family around, how do you do it? How do you manage to still be there?